Episode 012: How to stop choosing emotionally unavailable people

This week we’re covering men’s healing and spirituality and I am overjoyed this week to share the incredibly rich conversation I had with men’s coach Alexander Cottle. We often overlook men’s needs when everything looks perfect on the outside, but as Alexander details, even in his own personal spiritual journey, it’s still possible to hit that soul-shaking rock bottom.

After coming out from the other side, Alexander was inspired to support other men who had found themselves disconnected from their bodies, trapped in toxic relationships, lacking self-respect and had a lot of childhood and parenting wounds to heal. Tune in to hear his story and how he now changes men’s lives completely.

Here’s what we discuss:

• The first steps you can take after facing rock bottom (routines & structure are everything!)

• The importance of honouring sovereign boundaries and surrounding yourself with people who genuinely love and support you

• How society rewards the inflated shadow self: being controlling, showing manipulative behaviour to get to the top and being a workaholic and how to break free from those toxic traits

Alexander is a Men's Transformational Coach, NCS L3 qualified counsellor, Yoga Teacher, Meditation Teacher and founder of the ‘Unmasked Man’ - set up to encourage sharing, brotherhood and create a voice for men's mental health.

He is deeply passionate and dedicated to guiding men to step into their power and fulfil their potential. Leading through embodiment, Alexander has overcome many struggles on his journey, enabling him to hold space from an empathetic and relatable place. He believes that through true authenticity and vulnerability we can drop into a better relationship with ourselves and our bodies, creating a compassionate and grounded approach to self healing and growth.

As part of the Unmasked Man Team, Alexander teaches online and in person men's trainings, events and retreats throughout the UK and Europe.