3 Top Sex Tips For Men Who Are Feeling Insecure About Their Penis
Given the prominence of porn and objectification of the penis and its size, it is totally understandable if it is an area of your body that brings up insecurities.
However, please be assured that your ability to give someone pleasure is truly not dependent on the size of your penis.
Here are my 3 key sex tips for men who feel insecure about their penis size:
1) Communication
The size of a penis doesn’t create great sex but communication, connection and presence do. The best sex is a co-creation; it requires two people being honest about what they want and sharing this with each other.
2) Spend some time getting to know your partner’s anatomy & try different positions
By doing so, you can understand which positions help you both to have the most pleasurable experience with the anatomy you both have.
You might also be keen to find ways for the deepest level of penetration. However, I also recommend positions that allow for multiple areas of the body to be stimulated. Remember, it is not all about penetration, clitoral stimulation is key for many females, no matter the penis size. Here are just a few sex positions that may work well for you and your partner:
Doggy:
This is a great one to start with as the angle can create deeper penetration, and allows you to be in control of thrusting. A variation that can increase sensation is if the other person has their legs together.Legs up:
Invite your partner to lay on their back, kneel in front of them and as you enter them, invite them to lift their hips up and rest their legs on your chest/shoulders. The amount your partner may want to lift will depend on their flexibility. From here, you may want to lift up, place your hands on the floor and bring your partner’s legs towards them while they rest on your chest – this will further deepen penetration.
In this position, the weight of your body can create a feeling of further engulfment. It also allows you to be in control of pressure and speed.
Cowgirl variations:
From the cowgirl position, you could invite your partner to bring their legs into a squatting position with feet flat on the floor which will change the angle. From here you can control thrusting and pressure by holding onto their bum. For deeper penetration, you can also place a pillow under your hips to elevate them. As your partner is now facing away from you, this will create a different angle for a different sensation. From here you could caress or play with their bum, back and hair.
3) Mirror work and affirmations
For those who feel insecure about their penis size, I highly recommend mirror work. Hold this part of your body in the mirror while repeating supportive affirmations that resonate with you. This practice is one that requires repetition, so try it out for at least 21 days and see how you get on.
I recently shared these tips for a piece in Metro, however, I feel the choice of emoji belittles this through the use of humour and perpetuates body shaming. My contribution to this piece was to promote and celebrate male body positivity.
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